本不想它存在
但是我被我前任欺负得没有办法
那好
今天一次过把大家得疑问给说出来
很多人或许说，你不应该把这篇文分享出来，这样会让他更生气。
但，怎么担心起他的感受？但我的感受就可以让他任意践踏？
我已经快和他分手三个月了，但依然继续纠缠我。
Hello guys!
In the first place, I did not wan't to write about this.
But he made me no choice by keep harassing me, so I decided to share what is happening between me and my ex.
Maybe some people will say that, you should not share this out, it is not good to do so as he will be get mad and so on. But hello! I do not want to do it, but he made me no choice!
We had beak up for coming 3 months, but in a sudden send me that email.
你们继续读下去就会明白我的感受。
Read on you will understand what have I gone through!
他，曾经是我很爱过的一个人
医学系学生
之前认识他的时候
很喜欢他的说话和表达方式
人也非常的善良和聪明（那时应该是瞎了）
He is once to be a guy that I love him whole heartedly
A medic student.
I was attached with the way he speak and explain things and I felt that he is a very caring and kind person. ( Super Blind)
但他年纪比我小两岁
但那时的他也并我介意我比他年长
反而很喜欢我的成熟
我也觉得他比实际的岁数成熟（瞎了眼X2）
He is two years younger than me and he did not worried about the age and like the mature I used to be.
I felt that he is much more mature than is actual age. (Super Blind x2)
当时我们非常聊得开
之后他展开追求
我们也很自然的在一起了。
We can talk the whole night about everything and feel so right.
Then he confessed to me and we just be together naturally.
我们发展得很愉快和幸福
大家都说我们很般配
他那时也很温柔体贴
我也很想成为一个也让他觉得应以为傲得女朋友
一起努力为这段感情加油
I felt that we are meant to be together, feeling great and happy.
He is once a caring and nice guy that treat me right, our aim is to work hard on this relationship together.
我从毫无烹饪经验的女孩
因为他说他爱吃西餐
就去为他学习西餐和意大利面
看着他吃着开心
也就值得了（瞎了眼X3）
但也很感谢他让我烧了一手好菜
我还有保留我煮给他吃的照片
详情可以看我相册：
https://www.facebook.com/purpletiff/media_set?set=a.10151462454880209.505308.655765208&type=3
I am never a great cook before him!
But after I found out that he likes western food, so I learn to cook and make him happy!
Thank him for that for making me be a great cook now!
I did remain the photos of my cooking for him
Please click to view my album:
https://www.facebook.com/purpletiff/media_set?set=a.10151462454880209.505308.655765208&type=3
之后在一起都快半年了
偶尔他家人会来吉隆坡
但他很刻意的在他家人面前隐瞒我的存在
甚至会去开一个新的FB户口来只加他的家人
让他家人不知道我是他的女友
他说他家人不允许他交女朋友
因为怕影响他的学业
但事实上
我和他一星期只吃一次晚餐
其他时间他都告诉我他要读书 （最好是）
当时我很明白，所以也不烦他
只告诉他要睡之前给我一个晚安讯息就好（瞎了眼X4）
平时就算我主动约他，他会给我一堆理由说是要读书（现在想来，要应付一堆女孩，是会比较忙）
没时间陪我，我也算了，谁要我爱上读医学系的男生
因此我一个人在吉隆坡，周六日空得很，就接了很多网店服装拍摄以填满我的时间。
Then, we are dating for more than six months, sometimes his parents did come to KL for a visit.
But he never wanted to admit that he had a girlfriend and keep hiding. His reason to me is his parents do not allow him to involve in a relationship, because worried that this could possibly ruin his studies.
In fact, we only meet once a week for a dinner. I know that he is busy, so I only wants a goodnight message from him before he goes to bed. Is that too much? Not right! This is what every couple does!
Sometimes, I did asked him out for a dinner. But he always said that he is busy, need to do a lot of revision. (But think it over again, I guess it is quite heavy for him to handle so many admirers from him)
I am alone in this city, to filled up my time, I take up online boutique shooting job.
直到有一次
我有向他提起我想要买一架相机
但应该年尾才会买
要存钱和好朋友去了韩国再买
但他说那不如一起买
他也顺便可以用得到
他也说一起拥有一样东西也很幸福呀
那时真的觉得好甜蜜
就答应了，一人一半的买了下来
There is once I wanted to buy a new camera, but I told him that I will buy end of the year because I might spend a lot during my trip to Korea with my best friend. But he insist to buy together, because he said that he can use it too. He said that we both own a new camera will be very sweet, so we decided each of use pay half of it and own it together.
几个月后
他开始反应异常
异常的冷淡
甚至可以一整天一个讯息都没有
我下午信息的可以半夜才回复
他可以FB按赞别人的照片
但一整天不找我
说他在温习
很多时候约了我，然后又放我鸽子
我和他是从来不曾吵架的
发现到问题我会提出来解决
但很多这些事情加起来
真的不得让我不安
Few months later, he started acting awkward and I had been treated by cold treatment.
He can totally ignore me a day without any SMS. I sent him a sms during noon, he can reply me during midnight. He can likes others photos in Facebook but not interacting with me and claimed that he is revising. Date me many times but in the end cancel the appointment. All these act made me feel really uncomfortable and insecure.
有一次我就把他约出来
把问题打开
我一直问他，你最近还好吗？怎么了？
他从头到尾只说了，没有事，不要想太多
我把以上的问题问他，他也无言以对
还说如果我再这样会给我烦死
？？！！？？
对了，他说了一个笑话：
他：我只是最近这两个星期才这样啊！
我心里OS：难道发生了两年才告诉你这些问题？
There was once I invited him to have a talk about our problems.
I asked him do you have any problems lately that making you different from you used to be?
He said, nothing happened, don't think too much.
I throw all the question to him, but he never replied. He said if I keep bothering him like that, he will be be very suffering.
He tell a joke in a conversation:
Him: I just acted weird this two weeks!
My heart whispering: Erm, do I need to wait for 2 years and then only tell you the problem?
重点我的语气是温和的
只想把问题解开
毕竟如果有心经营这段感情必须要把问题说开来
但他一直说没事
之后我一边说一边哭（瞎了眼X5）
他还是不说
头也不回的离开了
正常原理
我是女生
我是会生气
也交往后第一次生气
所以之后那几天我都对他很冷淡
性格不是别人把你说得不堪
是你自己把自己弄得不堪
As a girl, if your boyfriend treated you this way, how do you feel?
This is the first time I was angry on him, but this make sense right?
I am concern about this relationship, that is why I need to clear all the doubts in it.
I feel angry and disappointed, hoping to cool down myself.
The truth is how you behaved and act, is not what other people talked bad about you.
我打了10多通电话，但他始终不接
但这样也好
误打误撞把一切都纪录起来
I called him more than 10 times, but he refused to pick up.
He is just trying to avoid and do not want to face the problem and push all the blame on me.
But, there is a good thing he did not pick up, so everything is clearly written here.
连他考试我也不知情
I don't even know he had an exam!
读书不是忽然发生的
如果不能应付
那当初为什么来打扰？
一堆借口！
He is a medic student since he chasing me, but if you can't cope it, why disturb me?
说起来也很讽刺
大家都说
你男朋友是医科学生
你生病他一定把你照顾得很好
但事实是，我生病，他一次都不在我身边
只是口头要我多喝水和休息
连我的姐妹都可以特意煮粥照顾我
他？算了（瞎了眼X6）
There was twice I am sick, he is never by my side (Even he is a medic Student)
How hilarious!
最后看到那句，我心寒了起来
一边说爱我，一边可以和我拿回东西
Referring the last phrase, I feel like he is a stranger to me!
Said how much he love me, but at the same time taking back things from me.
之后也觉得算了
别人没风度
就等于RM900认清他
但第二天他竟然发错信息给我
After that, paying him back RM900 to avoid him to keep nagging me, and see the real him, is worth it!
But the next day he sent me a wrong message to his PRESENT GIRLFRIEND!!
What he said in the sms is really so mean!
那时分手不到三个星期
就有了新欢
那时就决定不把钱还他了
不想我的钱还他来花在别的女人身上
既然他说分手的原因是因为有女朋友就多了个负担要照顾
但怎么他又自打嘴巴
去找了个新欢让自己辛苦呢
好矛盾
We just break up not more than 3 weeks he had a new girl already.
That time I decided not to return the money to him.
I don't wish to use my money that I returned him to pay for other women.
Since he said that he leave me is because having a girlfriend is too much for him to handle, then why he found another new one after that? So contradicting !
之后
有个女孩发个信息给我
内容如下
Few weeks later, a girl send me a message as bellow.
Translating:
Synopsis of the message.
She is one of his ex, but according what he told me, he just have only ONE ex.
She said she is also being told that their relationship cannot be told because his parents do not want him to get involve in relationship. She found out his trick that time in FB, by saying "I miss you", this phrase applies to all, those underground girlfriend will all thought that he is referring to them. This girl once asked him that why me and him breakup, he said I have a third party! Well! This guy is so ....Great!
原来是他其中一个前任
之前他只告诉我他曾经交过一个女朋友
分手原因是女方劈腿
现在真的觉得他说的话值得过滤
分手当天
也立刻马上换掉我和他合照的FB头像
In a Relationship换成Single
好快噢
还以为你忙着准备考试？
只能说能者多劳
On the day of our breakup, he changes his profile photo that previously our photo
In a Relationship changed to Single.
Supper efficient, erm, I thought that you are busying for you exam?
Opps, I forget you are good in multitasking!
还没关系
FB还写一堆状态
我记得有一个是这样写着：
You are Once My Motivation and Inspiration
Now you are my Distraction
After the breakup, he write a lots of things in Facebook like he is so innocent.
I remember one that really hurts me:
You are Once My Motivation and Inspiration
Now you are my Distraction
这有多伤人
一直让大家觉得是我的问题
好！
现在不再帮你隐瞒
是是非非
大家可以从他说的话看出来
That hurts!
He wants to let others thought that it is my problem!
Great!
I won't hide all the things you did to me anymore
You all can see from what he said to me.
以上的我一一都忍下来了
觉得算了！
可能他觉得自己理亏就不找我了
我也过我的安定的生活
I keep all these by myself
For one whole month, he did not find me anymore.
I thought that he knows that he is wrong, so never bother me anymore.
但今天早上
他发了一个邮件给我
我读了让我觉得他怎么可以可怕成这样
我才决定要写这篇文
他不用我摸黑
他自己的行动背叛了他的人格
But yesterday morning, he send me an email!
It really scares me that how this person can be so scary and cold blooded!
So I decided to write this blog once and for all.
I did not talk bad about him, but everything he did reflects what person he is!
Can't even imagine he will be a future doctor.
我一个曾经那么爱过的人
竟然可以对我写出这样的东西
只为了那RM900
心寒吗？
身为男人，你要为RM900那么看不开？
自己把事情复杂化的是你
要这样计算
是不是我在你身上花的心思，为你煮过东西材料的，买礼物的，列一个清单给你？
告诉你，肯定不止RM900！
Someone that I really love send me things like this
Because of the RM900
....
Please, be a man! (As I know you are never was)
The one that make things complicated is you!
The one that wanna break up is you!
Why everything I have to follow your plan?
The effort I wasted for you is lots more than RM900, so I have to bill it to you as well?
还要威胁我骚扰我家人，朋友和同事？（火都来！）
你不觉得你很幼稚？
也同时严重威胁到我自身安全
我是可以报警的。
From the email, he said that he will be keep bothering my family, friends and co-workers.
Really piss me up!
Stop all these childish action please!
You are seriously offended my safety!
I have the rights to make a police report!
女人不是给你这样欺负
你以为你长得好看，读医学系就可以玩弄感情？
我为你做的，身边的朋友都知道
你不懂得珍惜，也没有关系
Women is to be loved, not to be treated like this.
Don't think that you have a good looking face and you can play a relationship like a game!
What I did for you, everyone beside you and me (including you friends) know it well!
You do not know how to appreciate, FINE!
正如你所说，我知道马来西亚不大
但是我想勇敢的分享这篇文章
也当做善事
不要让别的女孩像我一样被伤害
Like what you said in the email, Malaysia is not big!
Definitely AGREE!
So that is why I need to write this blog to avoid other girls hurt by him!
只能说
他演技太好
老实说和他相处的9个月我都觉得他是个好男生
但一分手 可以翻脸不认人
如果真心爱怎么可能可以做得出
His acting is too good!
I felt that he is a good man for the past 9 months!
But after the breakup, he can be so super scary!
If he really loves me before, how could he done all these to me?
Conclusion, Stop all these action or I will bring this to authority!
You made me no choice as I had give you chances to stop all these act!
If you bought something with your girlfriend, please be reminded it is not a business, it is in a relationship. In the first place, you did not said that after we break up you will take back the money.
If I returned the money to you, is because of my kindness, if not returning you, is not something wrong as well.
How about my youth, days and time I spend with you, how I going to claim it back from you! Please think it over and be fair to me as well!
I have the RM900, but I will not return it to you! This is a lesson for you to learn, players lesson!
Thanks!
I don't have to write his name out, as people will know who this GREAT GUY is!
Lastly, Don't mess with a Blogger!
To all of his Exes that had been treated badly, you are welcome to send in your comments to my inbox!
